To get lover back you may have to try a little tenderness if the relationship ended with an explosion. Maybe the end of the marriage or the relationship resulted in a lot of hurt feelings and fights that resulted in some emotional pain. It could be there was something tragic that happened that caused the breakup. There may have been some wrong committed that caused humiliation for either party. Whatever the case, feelings were and probably still are hurt and if you want to get lover back, you will have to work gently and try to help heal the wounds that are there.
To get lover back you may have to take a close look at both yourself and them. There may be some things about you and the way that you are likely to handle the situation that could make matters worse. It could be things that you don't realize. There could also be some things that the one you love are struggling with that may have made them a little fragile. Even though they may not seem like big deals to you, for some reason they are to them.
Before you make any attempts at reconciliation, take a good look at yourself. It may mean that you have to go seek not only relationship advice but trying to get help on finding areas for improvement that you have. You have to be open to criticisms and accept that they may be right. You have to ask someone, “What are the best things for me to work on so that I can get ex back?” Be ready for any reaction you might get. Will it bother you to hear those things? Maybe, but it will do you good and will help you to get lover back. Take the advice seriously and learn to be more sensitive.
Whatever the person you love may be feeling, it is real to them. Understand that they have something that is deeply troubling them and come to them softly and tenderly. When they get upset, don't react. Fighting back or getting emotional won't do anything to help you get ex back. It will only drive you apart. You have to learn how to nurture them and help them heal. You will also have to give them the time and space that they need. The tenderest touch that someone can get isn't physical at all. It comes with a sense that you understand and that you are there for them.
There is a time for knocking some sense into someone but there is also a time for showing some tenderness and compassion. Know when those moments are and try to find the best way to act in them. True love will often require you to act and respond to things that don't seem natural to you. If the relationship is important, you will make those adjustments. Tenderness may not come to you naturally but one way or another, you will probably have to learn how if you want to get lover back.
Wednesday, June 24, 2009
Wednesday, May 6, 2009
How To Stop My Divorce
First, if you were the one who made the decision to end the marriage and now you
wonder, how can I stop my divorce? you should realize that you’re in a much better
position than most people trying to save their relationships. You’ll need to swallow
your pride and ego to go to your spouse with an apology. Explain that you acted
hastily and that now you regret it. Explain that you no longer want the divorce,
and maybe even that you never wanted it but it just came out of anger and you were
wrong.
This might seem a difficult step, but it’s necessary. Since you were the one to
bring up the issue of divorce, your spouse might have started seriously considering
and thinking that it’s a good idea, too. When you want to know, “How to stop my
divorce,” you need to discover what your spouse thinks of the idea and make it clear
that you were wrong. You can probably save the marriage just by admitting you made a
mistake.
If you’re wondering, “How can I stop my divorce when I didn’t want it in the first
place,” then you have your work cut out for you. You can explain, without judgment
or accusations, that you think the marriage is worth saving and that you don’t want
a divorce. Chances are that you’ve done this, more than once. But the way you say
it can make a difference.
It’s important for you to be very mature and calm about it. That’s not always easy
to do. Divorce is an emotional and painful thing. But it’s one thing to cry while
explaining that you want to stay married, and entirely another to yell or dissolve
into hysterics. If you scream, accuse or point fingers at your spouse, you’re giving
him or her even more reason to want to get away from you. If you want to learn ‘how
to stop my divorce’ you have to let go of the anger and resentment you feel toward
your spouse.
You also have to be willing to work on your problems. You must agree that the
relationship can’t go back to the way it was, but must change for the better.
Suggest marital counseling. Explain, "I want to stop my divorce", but make it clear
you know your spouse was unhappy with the way things were, and you’re ready to make
them better.
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wonder, how can I stop my divorce? you should realize that you’re in a much better
position than most people trying to save their relationships. You’ll need to swallow
your pride and ego to go to your spouse with an apology. Explain that you acted
hastily and that now you regret it. Explain that you no longer want the divorce,
and maybe even that you never wanted it but it just came out of anger and you were
wrong.
This might seem a difficult step, but it’s necessary. Since you were the one to
bring up the issue of divorce, your spouse might have started seriously considering
and thinking that it’s a good idea, too. When you want to know, “How to stop my
divorce,” you need to discover what your spouse thinks of the idea and make it clear
that you were wrong. You can probably save the marriage just by admitting you made a
mistake.
If you’re wondering, “How can I stop my divorce when I didn’t want it in the first
place,” then you have your work cut out for you. You can explain, without judgment
or accusations, that you think the marriage is worth saving and that you don’t want
a divorce. Chances are that you’ve done this, more than once. But the way you say
it can make a difference.
It’s important for you to be very mature and calm about it. That’s not always easy
to do. Divorce is an emotional and painful thing. But it’s one thing to cry while
explaining that you want to stay married, and entirely another to yell or dissolve
into hysterics. If you scream, accuse or point fingers at your spouse, you’re giving
him or her even more reason to want to get away from you. If you want to learn ‘how
to stop my divorce’ you have to let go of the anger and resentment you feel toward
your spouse.
You also have to be willing to work on your problems. You must agree that the
relationship can’t go back to the way it was, but must change for the better.
Suggest marital counseling. Explain, "I want to stop my divorce", but make it clear
you know your spouse was unhappy with the way things were, and you’re ready to make
them better.
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Thursday, April 2, 2009
The Myth of Marriage
THE MYTH: "Marriage shouldn't be this hard."
The Lie this leads to: "If it is, maybe we shouldn't be married."
All of us grow up seeing either very successful marriages or total disastrous ones all start to wonder how our lives would turn out to be after taking the “plunge” into marriage. Unlike everything other thing we go through life there isn’t a training programme for marriage the only training we get is "on the job".
We do however, develop basic skills or simple understanding from relating to others, but the bona fide knowledge and skills are hard and self earned.
Conversely, sometimes we learn lessons that are not entirely true, we then relate to these as the “myths of our marriages”. These are usually the stories we tell ourselves in a very simple attempt to try to understand. Sadly, this isn’t totally right, more than often are completely wrong. Once we start these stories we hold on to them so strongly and refuse to give them up.
Now it is entirely up to us to decide if we want to tell ourselves these stories, and if so, what is that we might be missing? After all the stories we tell ourselves establish the foundation of what we assume and how we act. This is what ultimately determines whether we learn to use the tools properly or allow us to injure ourselves.
Most people assume that good marriages are easy, there is no struggle there the dreamy belief that good relationships "just work". The real task is not to have a marriage that is “easy”, it is to learn how to struggle together with your partner, be a part of each other’s lives through the ups and downs and let these struggles make you grow
apart.
A little struggle, not too much, is essential for developing the muscles of survival, this is true with relationships, and without doubt true with marriages. Much like the tiny sea turtles, which are just about 3 inches long, make a very long trek from the nest to the sea. Since the mother turtle, almost 44 inches (approximately 1.15 mtr) makes its nest a long way from the sea this becomes a very long trek for the baby turtle. Some good Samaritans feeling bad for these baby turtles, many times, have in their way helped theses baby turtles to reach the water by picking them up and carrying them to the water. This action, though in their mind helpful, has resulted in the death of many baby turtles, as long trek to the sea builds the muscles in the flippers of the baby turtle, these muscles are all that ensure the survival of the babies.
It is this struggle, which we do together, helps us develop the “muscles” (skills) necessary to take on other struggles.
Sadly most of the marriages now-a-days end in a divorce, and the fact is that 100% marriages have difficulties. It takes a lot of muscle (skill), patience and the will to learn and develop, together, to stay in a marriage.
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The Lie this leads to: "If it is, maybe we shouldn't be married."
All of us grow up seeing either very successful marriages or total disastrous ones all start to wonder how our lives would turn out to be after taking the “plunge” into marriage. Unlike everything other thing we go through life there isn’t a training programme for marriage the only training we get is "on the job".
We do however, develop basic skills or simple understanding from relating to others, but the bona fide knowledge and skills are hard and self earned.
Conversely, sometimes we learn lessons that are not entirely true, we then relate to these as the “myths of our marriages”. These are usually the stories we tell ourselves in a very simple attempt to try to understand. Sadly, this isn’t totally right, more than often are completely wrong. Once we start these stories we hold on to them so strongly and refuse to give them up.
Now it is entirely up to us to decide if we want to tell ourselves these stories, and if so, what is that we might be missing? After all the stories we tell ourselves establish the foundation of what we assume and how we act. This is what ultimately determines whether we learn to use the tools properly or allow us to injure ourselves.
Most people assume that good marriages are easy, there is no struggle there the dreamy belief that good relationships "just work". The real task is not to have a marriage that is “easy”, it is to learn how to struggle together with your partner, be a part of each other’s lives through the ups and downs and let these struggles make you grow
apart.
A little struggle, not too much, is essential for developing the muscles of survival, this is true with relationships, and without doubt true with marriages. Much like the tiny sea turtles, which are just about 3 inches long, make a very long trek from the nest to the sea. Since the mother turtle, almost 44 inches (approximately 1.15 mtr) makes its nest a long way from the sea this becomes a very long trek for the baby turtle. Some good Samaritans feeling bad for these baby turtles, many times, have in their way helped theses baby turtles to reach the water by picking them up and carrying them to the water. This action, though in their mind helpful, has resulted in the death of many baby turtles, as long trek to the sea builds the muscles in the flippers of the baby turtle, these muscles are all that ensure the survival of the babies.
It is this struggle, which we do together, helps us develop the “muscles” (skills) necessary to take on other struggles.
Sadly most of the marriages now-a-days end in a divorce, and the fact is that 100% marriages have difficulties. It takes a lot of muscle (skill), patience and the will to learn and develop, together, to stay in a marriage.
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Tuesday, March 31, 2009
3 Keys To Transform Your Marriage
Recognizing you have a marriage problem is the first step along the road to transforming your marriage, and for most couples simply acknowledging there is a problem shatters the marriage myth. According to love stories, movies, and fairytales we are supposed to live 'happily ever after'. But what happens when Snow White develops a drinking problem? What happens when Robin Hood's long working hours start affecting his marriage to Maid Marian? What happens when Cinderella says she has 'fallen out of love'?
We are taught in school how to do sums, how to read and recognize Shakespeare, and how to conduct scientific experiments, but what do we really know about the greatest social experiment of all, namely our ability to keep the love alive in our marriage?
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The fact is we know surprisingly little, and from the moment we say "I do," we are literally flying by the seat of our pants. We don't get a manual or a textbook telling us how to get it right, so our marriage becomes an evolving set of experiments, learning and discovering more and more about ourselves and each other, and figuring out what works and what doesn't. Some say if we don't make mistakes we don't really learn, but what do those mistakes cost us, and is the cost too high for some couples?
That's why I have 3 ways to instantly transform your marriage. These are 3 things that you know will work and will help you get your marriage back on track. Let's call this your error-free way to redeem yourself and your marriage in the eyes of your partner and show them that you are committed to making positive changes in your marriage.
The first key to transforming your marriage is to stop looking at your issues on a case-by-case basis. Couples that try to solve arguments by going into the small details of every argument are never really going to deal with the big stuff. I'm talking about the issues that REALLY matter in your marriage, and the issues that keep coming up in every disagreement.
Spend too much time at work? Partner feeling unappreciated? Don't make love as much as you used to? Either of you feeling unfulfilled by your lifestyle or the relationship? Is the communication poor in your relationship? Does your need to always be right override the feelings of your partner? Spend less time worrying about the details and more time examining the issues and themes behind your arguments.
* The issue is your job. The theme behind this may be balance between work and home life.
* The issue is you not doing enough chores. The theme behind may be that you are being invited into making a greater contribution into coupledom.
* The issue is your partner being grumpy with you all the time. The theme is your partner needing to feel validated in the relationship
If you have a greater understanding of what the key themes are behind your marriage issues you are better able to develop effective solutions that will really make a difference.
The second key to transforming your relationship is to examine your beliefs about marriage. It's okay to not have the fairytale marriage. Even the best couples don't always get it right. But what makes the imperfections good or bad is how you choose as a couple to deal with it. When you disagree about something, do you sit down and talk about it, or is your first instinct to deny that there is a problem and hope that it will all go away?
You need to understand that it is okay to be imperfect. In fact, admitting this to yourself and your partner can be one of the most liberating actions you take in transforming your marriage. Admitting your imperfections exposes a vulnerability that can bring you closer together as you find ways to get some meaning out of your issues. Acknowledging that you do make mistakes can open the door to acknowledging that there is a better way to do things, and one of the lessons we are called into as a couple is finding that solution together. Make a list of things that you have learnt since you got married, and a list of areas that you as a couple can both improve on. Then try sharing that list with your partner and ask them to contribute their thoughts.
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The third key to transforming your relationship is in recognizing the differences between men and women, and acknowledging the importance of both roles in the relationship. Just because your partner views something different to you doesn't make them wrong, and the same goes for you. There are often several interpretations of the truth, and the key to marriage success is in recognizing that women and men have key fundamental differences in the way they view things. For men, their view may be a much more task-oriented approach to fixing an issue, where a woman may focus more on the emotional process as you both navigate your way through marriage issues. While both approaches are different, with compromise they can both achieve the same result.
Write down 5 themes or issues. Then I want you to write down 5 task-oriented ways of trying to solve the situation. Then list 5 thoughts-based ways of communicating your way to a solution.
The first step to transforming your marriage is in transforming YOU. Being married can be scary enough, but having marriage problems and not knowing how to fix them can be paralyzing! All it takes is the ability to step outside your day-to-day issues and look at different ways of viewing your marriage. Every marriage problem invites you into growing and offers you and your partner the opportunity to learn.
Now it's up to you to take what you have learned and apply it to YOUR marriage. You too can have a fairytale marriage!
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We are taught in school how to do sums, how to read and recognize Shakespeare, and how to conduct scientific experiments, but what do we really know about the greatest social experiment of all, namely our ability to keep the love alive in our marriage?
If you can't wait a moment longer, check out Save My Marriage Today for answers:
Click Here!
The fact is we know surprisingly little, and from the moment we say "I do," we are literally flying by the seat of our pants. We don't get a manual or a textbook telling us how to get it right, so our marriage becomes an evolving set of experiments, learning and discovering more and more about ourselves and each other, and figuring out what works and what doesn't. Some say if we don't make mistakes we don't really learn, but what do those mistakes cost us, and is the cost too high for some couples?
That's why I have 3 ways to instantly transform your marriage. These are 3 things that you know will work and will help you get your marriage back on track. Let's call this your error-free way to redeem yourself and your marriage in the eyes of your partner and show them that you are committed to making positive changes in your marriage.
The first key to transforming your marriage is to stop looking at your issues on a case-by-case basis. Couples that try to solve arguments by going into the small details of every argument are never really going to deal with the big stuff. I'm talking about the issues that REALLY matter in your marriage, and the issues that keep coming up in every disagreement.
Spend too much time at work? Partner feeling unappreciated? Don't make love as much as you used to? Either of you feeling unfulfilled by your lifestyle or the relationship? Is the communication poor in your relationship? Does your need to always be right override the feelings of your partner? Spend less time worrying about the details and more time examining the issues and themes behind your arguments.
* The issue is your job. The theme behind this may be balance between work and home life.
* The issue is you not doing enough chores. The theme behind may be that you are being invited into making a greater contribution into coupledom.
* The issue is your partner being grumpy with you all the time. The theme is your partner needing to feel validated in the relationship
If you have a greater understanding of what the key themes are behind your marriage issues you are better able to develop effective solutions that will really make a difference.
The second key to transforming your relationship is to examine your beliefs about marriage. It's okay to not have the fairytale marriage. Even the best couples don't always get it right. But what makes the imperfections good or bad is how you choose as a couple to deal with it. When you disagree about something, do you sit down and talk about it, or is your first instinct to deny that there is a problem and hope that it will all go away?
You need to understand that it is okay to be imperfect. In fact, admitting this to yourself and your partner can be one of the most liberating actions you take in transforming your marriage. Admitting your imperfections exposes a vulnerability that can bring you closer together as you find ways to get some meaning out of your issues. Acknowledging that you do make mistakes can open the door to acknowledging that there is a better way to do things, and one of the lessons we are called into as a couple is finding that solution together. Make a list of things that you have learnt since you got married, and a list of areas that you as a couple can both improve on. Then try sharing that list with your partner and ask them to contribute their thoughts.
To fast track your improvements, Click Here!
The third key to transforming your relationship is in recognizing the differences between men and women, and acknowledging the importance of both roles in the relationship. Just because your partner views something different to you doesn't make them wrong, and the same goes for you. There are often several interpretations of the truth, and the key to marriage success is in recognizing that women and men have key fundamental differences in the way they view things. For men, their view may be a much more task-oriented approach to fixing an issue, where a woman may focus more on the emotional process as you both navigate your way through marriage issues. While both approaches are different, with compromise they can both achieve the same result.
Write down 5 themes or issues. Then I want you to write down 5 task-oriented ways of trying to solve the situation. Then list 5 thoughts-based ways of communicating your way to a solution.
The first step to transforming your marriage is in transforming YOU. Being married can be scary enough, but having marriage problems and not knowing how to fix them can be paralyzing! All it takes is the ability to step outside your day-to-day issues and look at different ways of viewing your marriage. Every marriage problem invites you into growing and offers you and your partner the opportunity to learn.
Now it's up to you to take what you have learned and apply it to YOUR marriage. You too can have a fairytale marriage!
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“If Only I Could Understand Men….”
Men always say they can’t understand women, and that women are so complicated. Well, for many women, it is the exact opposite. Most would give anything to understand what makes men “tick.” Even though women want to know what he’s thinking, men are often reluctant to share what is in their hearts. What’s a woman to do?
Rather than describe all the differences between the sexes, it is often more helpful to focus on a few areas that any woman can understand.
1) Men are more sensitive than women. While that might sound silly, the truth is that men don’t have the ability to recover from emotional trauma as effectively as a woman. Because of this, men keep themselves from getting too upset. When a man hears he should just “let his feelings out,” what he translates that into is this, “If I let my feelings out, I might not be able to control them.”
2) Men hate fighting. For men, conflict is not simply resolving a problem. Fighting, to a man, means one has to win and the other needs to be totally defeated. Men often prefer conflict that is non-emotional because it is less threatening to them. Once a conflict becomes emotionally charged, it is very difficult for a man to contain those feelings and the most frequent coping skill is for them to become quiet. It may seem like they are punishing you, but they are most likely trying not to lose control.
3) Men want to get married. In spite of what many progressive cultures preach, the truth is that a majority of men in the world do get married. While the freedom of being single has its appeal, it comes with one primary drawback – it is lonely. While this might not sound overly romantic, finding a woman that a man can trust is just as important as finding one who is beautiful.
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Rather than describe all the differences between the sexes, it is often more helpful to focus on a few areas that any woman can understand.
1) Men are more sensitive than women. While that might sound silly, the truth is that men don’t have the ability to recover from emotional trauma as effectively as a woman. Because of this, men keep themselves from getting too upset. When a man hears he should just “let his feelings out,” what he translates that into is this, “If I let my feelings out, I might not be able to control them.”
2) Men hate fighting. For men, conflict is not simply resolving a problem. Fighting, to a man, means one has to win and the other needs to be totally defeated. Men often prefer conflict that is non-emotional because it is less threatening to them. Once a conflict becomes emotionally charged, it is very difficult for a man to contain those feelings and the most frequent coping skill is for them to become quiet. It may seem like they are punishing you, but they are most likely trying not to lose control.
3) Men want to get married. In spite of what many progressive cultures preach, the truth is that a majority of men in the world do get married. While the freedom of being single has its appeal, it comes with one primary drawback – it is lonely. While this might not sound overly romantic, finding a woman that a man can trust is just as important as finding one who is beautiful.
If you liked these insights, there are more available in Bob Grant’s wonderful e-book called, “The Woman Men Adore…and Never Want to Leave.” Bob Grant, L.P.C., has taken his 17 years of private practice as a Licensed Professional Counselor and Coach and condensed only the best information into a mouth-watering, powerful handbook on what men find themselves powerless to resist in a woman. You can have this information simply by Clicking Here!
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How To Save Your Marriage
The number of people getting divorced each year is increasing. In
Can your marriage be saved? Im not sure if anyone would answer that for you but what I know is that you can declare that you will do whatever it takes to save your marriage and take actions consistent to that. Being in action will give you a better chance of saving your marriage.
And I can tell you, in four simple steps what you can do to save your marriage. You can start right now. I could tell you four steps you could take to save your marriage. The path is not easy. It is not comfortable, but has an impact on the destiny of a marriage in trouble. You can choose to do nothing about the divorce you see sitting in your future or you can choose to be in action. Whatever you choose will decide the destiny of your marriage.
Here are the 4 steps:
1) Take Responsibility Of The Situation. Quit the blame game NOW. And when I say take responsibility, I do not mean blame yourself. Be the at the source of all that is not working the way you would like it to. Stop blaming your spouse and stop blaming yourself. This is the first step because marriages get frozen into a pattern of blame that immobilizes any prospect of progress. This will give you power in the situation and a say in the matter of life.
It is easy to sit in your comfort zone and point fingers. But does this blame game give you any power. Remember the last time everyone congratulated you for something nice you did and you felt full of power? The power came not because something was done. You felt powerful because you were at the source of it. Be at the source of your marriage too and see how you get to turn things the way they are.
I am not saying that the truth is that you are the reason everything went wrong. NO YOU ARE NOT. I AM NOT ASKING YOU TO BLAME YOURSELF. I told you to be the reason (not the one at fault). It’s hard to distinguish responsibility from blame, but I’m sure you will get to it once you are in practice.
Decide you can do something. Change always begins with one person who wants to see a change. Understand that taking responsibility is not the same as taking the blame.
Instead, blame is saying "regardless of who is at fault, there are some things I can do differently, and I am going to do them." What buttons do you allow your spouse to push? What buttons do you push with your spouse? Decide not to allow those buttons to be pushed and stop pushing the buttons.
What amazes me in my counseling is that everyone knows what they should be doing or not doing. But it is difficult to move in that direction. Don't be caught in that. Decide that you will take action.
The difference between blame and responsibility is this: if I am in a burning building, I can stand around trying to figure out who started the blaze, why it has spread so quickly, and who I am going to sue when it is over (blame), or I can get myself and anyone else I can out of that building (taking responsibility). When a marriage is in trouble, the house is on fire. How will you take action to save the marriage?
2) Get resources from experts. If others have been helped, you can be, too. Experts with a great deal more perspective and experience can be a real help in these situations. Do your research and divide the useless from the useful, then take advantage of the useful.
Don't assume that your situation is so different from every other situation. I can tell you that after 20-some years of providing therapy, not too much new comes through my doors. Don't get me wrong; the story changes, but the dynamics are the same.
Remember what Albert Einstein said, "The significant problems we have cannot be solved at the same level of thinking with which we created them." In other words, what got you into trouble will not get you out of trouble. That requires a whole new level of thinking. And that is what you get from an outside expert, someone with a fresh perspective.
3) Take action. More damage is done by doing nothing. It is too easy to get paralyzed by the situation. Therapists often talk about "analysis paralysis." This occurs when people get so caught up in their churning thoughts and attempts to "figure things out" that they never take action.
It is not enough to simply understand what is causing the problem. You must then act! On a daily basis, I find people coming to my office with the belief that if they can just understand their problem, it will resolve itself. That simply does not happen. Resolution of the situation takes action.
4) Imagine God came down from heaven. He gave you 15 minutes where your spouse would listen to whatever you have to tell them about how they should live their life and follow all your instructions. You will not need 15 minutes and his/her life will be altered forever. He/She will have the best life possible. Let’s call these their ‘Blind Spots’. You clearly know ALL of what he/she should be doing or not doing and their life will be heaven. Don’t You?
And…what if you get to see your ‘Blind Spots’? How would that be? Would that help?
LISTEN to your partner without arguing. Remember, you are at the source of your marriage. You are the reason for all that worked and didn’t work.
Will your marriage be saved? If you follow my suggestions, you have infinitely more opportunity for saving your marriage than if you do nothing. Marriage is one of those places where it takes two to make it work, but only one to really mess things up. You can do your part and mostly, that is enough. Resolve not to ask the question but to begin to act.
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Monday, March 30, 2009
Pre-packaged Save Marriage Solutions
Next time you are in your local grocery store, keep an eye open for an evolving phenomena. Pre-packaged and pre-prepared meals have now entered into the cheese market. I was down at the grocery store last week, doing some shopping on my way home from work. Looking down at all the different types of cheese in the deli before me, my attention was directed toward bags of grated cheese. I was astounded! Pre-grated cheese! And then it made me wonder...
If we are too lazy to even grate our own cheese, how bad have things become? Does this same paternalistic mentality over needing to buy cheese pre-grated follow into so many of our other facets of life? Can we buy houses that clean themselves, cars that drive themselves? It seems they are developing technology that will enable us to have vacuum cleaners that operate themselves as well as self-drive cars. Thinking on to the next logical step from this, how much do we expect others to do for us? How little do we expect to do for ourselves?
I mean, if we can’t grate our own cheese, clean our own homes, drive ourselves about, then where do we take control of what is going on in our lives?
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This mentality follows when it comes to your marriage. There is no product out there that is going to save your marriage for you. The act of buying a book is not going to magically turn your marriage problems around. Reading the book is not going to change your life either. Marriages involve work. Marriage problems require even more work, and a commitment that the effort you make and the heartache you go through in the process of fixing your marriage is going to be worth it. Reading about how to fix a marriage is not going to magically change your life either. This mentality is going to doom your marriage to the divorce basket.
What is going to make a difference is having the determination to read the concepts and techniques that we offer and applying them to your marriage. This also means getting off your backside and taking responsibility for saving your marriage. Because ultimately the effort you go to is going to determine to a large extent whether your marriage survives or not.
I never heard of a person learning to walk again achieve success by simply reading a book about it. I never heard of Christopher Columbus discovering America by buying a book about it and never setting out to sea. I never heard of man landing on the moon and attributing his success by watching a great documentary about it and never reaching space. I never heard of Edmund Hilary conquering Mount Everest by reading a magazine about how to do it and never leaving his armchair. Achieving success in any pursuit involves HARD WORK, it involves dedication, and it involves personal investment by the person with the greatest to gain.
There are no shortcuts. The people who achieve great things in life, sometimes against great odds, are those who are determined to succeed and determined to take action and do something. Others can provide you with the tools, but the hard work and the heartache and the achievement are ultimately your responsibility.
I cannot help those who will not help themselves. I provide the tools, but it is up to you to use them and apply them. Next time you are at the supermarket, buy a block. Grate your own cheese. Clean your own floors, drive your own car. Save your own marriage with my course. Let me help you save your marriage.
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If we are too lazy to even grate our own cheese, how bad have things become? Does this same paternalistic mentality over needing to buy cheese pre-grated follow into so many of our other facets of life? Can we buy houses that clean themselves, cars that drive themselves? It seems they are developing technology that will enable us to have vacuum cleaners that operate themselves as well as self-drive cars. Thinking on to the next logical step from this, how much do we expect others to do for us? How little do we expect to do for ourselves?
I mean, if we can’t grate our own cheese, clean our own homes, drive ourselves about, then where do we take control of what is going on in our lives?
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This mentality follows when it comes to your marriage. There is no product out there that is going to save your marriage for you. The act of buying a book is not going to magically turn your marriage problems around. Reading the book is not going to change your life either. Marriages involve work. Marriage problems require even more work, and a commitment that the effort you make and the heartache you go through in the process of fixing your marriage is going to be worth it. Reading about how to fix a marriage is not going to magically change your life either. This mentality is going to doom your marriage to the divorce basket.
What is going to make a difference is having the determination to read the concepts and techniques that we offer and applying them to your marriage. This also means getting off your backside and taking responsibility for saving your marriage. Because ultimately the effort you go to is going to determine to a large extent whether your marriage survives or not.
I never heard of a person learning to walk again achieve success by simply reading a book about it. I never heard of Christopher Columbus discovering America by buying a book about it and never setting out to sea. I never heard of man landing on the moon and attributing his success by watching a great documentary about it and never reaching space. I never heard of Edmund Hilary conquering Mount Everest by reading a magazine about how to do it and never leaving his armchair. Achieving success in any pursuit involves HARD WORK, it involves dedication, and it involves personal investment by the person with the greatest to gain.
There are no shortcuts. The people who achieve great things in life, sometimes against great odds, are those who are determined to succeed and determined to take action and do something. Others can provide you with the tools, but the hard work and the heartache and the achievement are ultimately your responsibility.
I cannot help those who will not help themselves. I provide the tools, but it is up to you to use them and apply them. Next time you are at the supermarket, buy a block. Grate your own cheese. Clean your own floors, drive your own car. Save your own marriage with my course. Let me help you save your marriage.
Click Here!
Keep Your Marriage EBook
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